Tracy Malloy
Author
Reiki Healer Holy FIre
Tarot Reader
Akashic Record Reader
Teacher

Social Distance got me today…

Mercury Retrograde, a full moon, Friday the 13th, we lost an hour of sleep AND most of the country began to social distance last week. I’m exhausted.

Around Wednesday March 11, at prescicely 12pm, I had essentially given up for the week. Each day had already been exhausting. We joked it was finally the end of Mercury being in Retrograde, we were all sleep deprived, there had been a full moon on Sunday… To he honest I was looking forward to Friday the 13th because it was one of the days I work at a different work site. By Thursday things were starting to get really crazy. There. Was. No. Toilet. Paper. ANYWHERE.

We are all aware this crazy fast pneumonia viral infection had spread pretty quickly through China and we were hearing very scary things from our own soil as well as in Italy and numerous other countries. I had gone to the store a few times that week because that’s how I shop, I stop at the store when I need something and buy the majority of my basics on the weekend. I bought paper products, cleaning supplies and some odds and ends. By the time quitting time came on Friday things were chaotic. Our government had called for social distance, a lot of schools in our area were shutting down for the next two to three weeks, the nursing home I visit was not allowing any visitors, stores were mobbed and out of everything. I mean everything. No milk, no produce, no meat… Nothing. I was out for dinner with some friends while we discussed why might happen at work on Monday. On Saturday I went to the drug store for cough drops (I have a slight addiction) and some soda (I have a few addictions) and was lucky enough to get two half gallons of the milk my husband drinks, some coffee and two boxes of Mac and Cheese. My mother offered to have my brother get some things from Walmart when he went to work but I declined and waited until I went to the grocery store the next day. I was lucky and got most of my weekly groceries and one of the LAST loaves of bread in the store. It’s horrible, gritty, non GMO sawdust, but it ain’t bad toasted with peanut butter.

I believe what started to happen next is because people are actually trying to stay in place and not be out and about. I personally know social media is dangerous to the psyche but I suppose I distance myself from it enough not to truly see it.

People are brutal, people are so fast to believe anything that places blame of what they are feeling and they will not believe anything else. People are also jaded by what they believe, their opinions, their religion and their politics. Now… I have some strong opinions, I am not religious, I’m a pretty centralist person with my politics. I’ve had my mind changed both on atheism (which I not fully embrace) and completely understand the other side of the aisle sense of politics and view of our country. I just may not agree with it… But I understand it and I know some wonderful supporters from the other side of the aisle. As long as we can have a discussion without name calling and bashing I am your debate girl! It’s really my mother’s fault because she always said you should not talk about religion and politics, those are my two favorite topics. I hate small talk.

While I can personally see where someone is coming from on whatever topic is at hand, I will always be respectful unless disrespected first, I will always try (sometimes that’s hard) to understand where the other person is coming from. The last five days have been heartbreaking. People are coming from a place of absolute fight or flight. It’s not totally relegated to the current state of the economy, I see it all the time, it’s just so in your face right now. Some friends have been sharing their prayers and wishes for God to help and intervene, they are sharing their outdoor adventures with their out of school kids, their TV recommendations, their diet advice, it’s really been beautiful. Personally I’ve been in alot of my diabetes groups helping people with advice where I can and watching my own marathons on streaming (As I said… Addictions).

Others are just sharing misinformation. Straight made up stuff. Just sharing others opinions as facts on this insane illness. This stuff isn’t coming from a website, it is personal Facebook statues that are copied and pasted from others because the original posts are being flagged. They are being flagged because they are dangerous and irresponsible. Socially distance and stay home! This is not a hoax. I repeat, this is not a hoax. This got me anxious and downright angry the last two days.

BREATHE TRACY BREATHE.

{I had to remind myself over and over.}

Some advice though I wanted to pass on to you for now and in the future. The world certainly seems black and white. There are going to be things you are going to like and dislike, things you are going to be for and things you are going to be against, and maybe as a spiritual soul seeker you are going to be passionate about a fair few. I only ask that you stay true to who you are and don’t hold others accountable for your view on the world. Where you see something as wrong and evil another person may have had a wonderful experience with it. Like, religion or hunting for example. Maybe a family must hunt in order to suppliments their families meals in the winter and maybe some really feel like they were saved by God and a religious community. Neither of those things are right for me, but that doesn’t make them wrong or evil.

It just makes them right for that person.

Sending wonderfully healing vibes to everyone who took the time out of their homeschooling to read the words that calmed me today.

🧘‍♀️ Tracy Malloy

Rituals. What they are and why you may choose to do them.

What do you think of when you hear the word ritual?

We hear it all the time in some Spiritual circles especially if you study Shamanism or Wicca. They are often thought of as dark magic, scary things we should stay away from. This could not be more wrong!

A ritual is making coffee in the am.

Taking a bath after work.

Having a glass of wine at the end of a trying day.

When we talk about ritual in a Spiritual sense there may be other reasons why you choose do them and the why they are important is what I want to chat about today.

A ritual is a prescribed order of actions and the reason why I like rituals is because they help me to set my intent. I don’t need them… But I do find when working with clients that they help them to get closer to the mindset I’m in when healing. I’m focused and I need them to focus and set the intent for themselves so the benefit lasts longer. This also teaches them they can do this too. All it takes is a bit of focus and intent along with determined energy to make life a bit easier.

I don’t need to burn sage to clear someone but as a client myself, I always appreciate when my instructor comes over to me with her sage stick or bowl. It becomes sacred time. A time I know someone else is caring for me and being gentle with me, ensuring I get exactly what I need out of the upcoming meditation or class. It brings me back into focus for what I want to enjoy. I certainly don’t want to go on a shamanic journey with the days events plaguing me.

Many times rituals are done outside after a house clearing. Generally the ashes from the sage bowl are either buried in the ground or scattered at the end of the driveway- all this is is adding to the intent that the home is protected and clear from outside negative baggage. (We all have baggage and sometimes it gets out of control because we are busy busy)

Some of my favorite rituals are a few from a shamanic tradition I’ve learned in classes.

Blessing and thanking Mother Earth for her gifts and the gifts of the universe by putting a mound of cornmeal (jiffy corn muffin mix works fine- it’s the intent!!)and pouring some milk over it on New Year’s day to show gratitude for abundance, blessing a glass of water before I drink it and then pouring a sip or two into the sink to bless the waterways (I do wish I had a stream in my yard… Ah, someday) and my absolute favorite is driving with no music on and just enjoying the quiet and ready for the day. This is when I set my affirmation for the day.

Many cultures have rituals and some of them are just amazing and beautiful. The Mexican Day of the Dead, Church feast days, the Catholic Church is all ritual and tradition that seeks to bring comfort during difficult times. Meditation is an important ritual all churches advocate for in praying, it isn’t just eastern religion that meditates, Western religion just has a different more accepted name for it and doesn’t always encourage action to go along with it.

All a ritual is, is setting intent. Creating sacred space for yourself and your client. It is super important to explain everything to your client in advance, why you are doing the ritual, what it’s purpose is. Generally I just tell them it’s to create sacred space and get us both in the correct mindset for healing. Because, after all, that is all it is.

Sacred Space can be anything that puts you at ease

Just remember, you may not need them but your client may and will certainly appreciate them.

What are some if your favorite rituals?

tracy@energyflows.org

Empath Protection: How to deal with an energy invasion

As empaths we know we absorb the energy of those around us. We have all heard the terms Energy Vampires, Psychic Attack and Entities (demons is an even more misleading term)

None of these things are as bad as they are made out to be. It’s just emotions and energy.

We are energy held together by many different things to make us appear solid. Sometimes some of our energy slips out. This happens when we happy, sad, joyous, scared, in love and experiencing anger, jealousy or displeasure. We are all energy plain and simple. Neither good or bad, just energy trying to piece together our place in the world.

Some of us are more sensitive to other people’s energy seeping out than others, these are the empaths or sensitive folks of the world.

It can affect us in both good and bad ways. We feel happy when our date brings us flowers, when our children make us gifts, when our pet runs down the hallway after we call them. We feel their love seeping out of them. We also feel when someone is upset with us, depressed, anxious and in pain and it can really be hard to figure out if those negative things belong to us or if they are the product of an interaction we have had.

Every thing I mentioned, Psychic Attack, Energy Vampires and Entities, are just emotions and energy.

With a foreign invasion of energy (Psychic Attack) the symptoms are:

Quickly and suddenly feeling sick with headache, shooting pain, nausea or anxiety. This will onset fast. You’re fine… Then you are not. You may take some aspirin and find it does not help the symptoms, in fact it may make them worse. I have had this experiance too many times working psychic fairs or after disagreements with people. It litterally hits and then is gone with using the following process. This is how I know it is an energy seepage from someone else. I have had painful migraines immidiately dissapear.

The first thing I like to do in this situation is assess if I was feeling under the weather beforehand. The next thing I do is firmly state to myself that if this feeling is related to another person’s energy seeping (whether intentional or not) that it immidiately be removed from my energy field. Should the pain or discomfort start to subside I will imagine all of the foreign energy being removed. You can do this by visualizing a comb combing through your body and gathering up all the foreign stuff. As you remove everything you may significantly start to feel better. Generally I wrap it up in pretty paper and heal it with what the person needs the most, it isn’t for me to decide, that is for the energy of that person do decide, but generally it is filled with good wishes, healing or some sort and love. Then I send it back. It’s their energy and when it seeped out it left them with an energy loss so I want them to have that energy (or emotion) back transformed. Since an attack of someone’s energy onto yourself can be a jolt, next I replace and heal any holes left in my own energy field. It doesn’t matter what you replace it with and it doesn’t matter if it is related to what you just experianced, all that matters is that it is replenished. You can again visualize doing this in any way but I like to see a color being put back in along with the wish and any affirmation you feel you need to hear. Then I rest and go easy on myself. It can take alot out of you.  I also want to make it clear this is not often done on purpose. It is just energy seepage that is possibly directed at you because of the person’s emotional state. Can it be done with intent? Sure, but often it isn’t so be nice when sending it back. Do unto others!

With an energy drainer (Energy Vampire)

These are the people who just take everything out of you. They complain, they unload all their stuff on you and when you are done talking with them they look and feel much better and you feel like you could sleep for a week and need a drink.

The truth is with these types of people they need healing. They are coming to you likely over and over because you are helping them solve their problems, give them a place to bounce ideas off of and vent. We all need this. It’s perfectly normal. They may be what you call a negative Nellie or an Eeyore. You know this is what you are dealing with if when you are away from them you feel better or the symptoms appear after being with the person. You may adapt to how they appear to you, sad, depressed, angry, drama filled, short tempered… The list goes on and on.

These people need love sent. If I am able I always send them healing and help in any way I can. When I am involved in these situations I always remind myself I am only giving what I would like to be given to me if I were in a tough spot. I affirm that my energy is mine and they cannot take it without my consent. Know your energy is never ending. No one can drain your energy without your consent.

If you are feeling this after being with people who are draining, you need to know your energy has no end. This is important! There is no end to your energy, it is ever present around you so remove the thought of being drained and it won’t happen.

Use any affirmation you need, ask for assistance from other healers if you need to before hand and go forth and help when you are able. You also need to know when you are not able and when to say no, when to hang up the phone or go home. Know your boundaries. Boundaries are key here.

With our own or other people’s negative emotions (Entities/Demons/Attachments)

Entities are just our own negative emotions that tend to fester if they are not dealt with properly. Acceptance that the emotion exists and research and inner seeking as to why it exists is really really helpful here. All emotions have a root cause and when we ignore them, or pretend they don’t exist (like the shadow self) they manifest in greater detail. Long standing anxiety, depression (not all) sleeplessness, feeling as if nothing goes your way among many other things, can be some of the symptoms that there is some healing that needs to take place. This is not something to be dealt with alone and you should seek the help of your general practitioner, counseling and medication if it is advised while you work on the personal healing using complimentary healing like Reiki, the use of sound healing such as your favorite music,and dancing or exercise to move the energy around in your body. Meditation, yoga and lighting some insense or using essential oils for aromatherapy are excellent complimentary healing modules. Do everything and anything you can to enjoy 5 minutes of your life right now.

Now… Sometimes we may pick up someone else’s negative conglomerate of energy. This can happen anywhere. The mall, the grocery store, a friend, a couple worker or any place or home. This in my experience has felt like a giant glob of foreign energy attached to me. It creeps in slow not fast like an attack of emotions and just feels icky. You may feel like you have thoughts that are not your own, have dreams that really don’t make sense to you, feel as if something is following you. What has happened here, and happens frequently, is the negative stuff people let go of and heal from needs to be transformed (remember the pretty paper package?) before it is released. You have to be responsible for what you release so that someone else doesn’t get slapped in the face with it. Energy is not light or dark, positive or negative .. it just is what it is. It doesn’t have a consciousness, you do and you need to tell it what to do. This type of energy may have foreign memories attached to it.(This is why it is often confused with a “ghost” or “demon” causing the negativity) so please please when you release or meditate send what you release back to it’s original source, God, heaven, the purple flame after it has been transformed to something lovely and beautiful. Send as you want to receive. I’ve been slapped with 2 of these types of negative experiances. I don’t wish that type of confusion and unease on anyone.

So again, as with the foreign energy, I remove it, firmly, wrap it in paper, send it back transformed and then replenish my own energy.

It’s always really helpful to employ some energy protection daily until you get the hang of this. Bubble yourself, add in your affirmation for what you will and will not allow, set your boundaries, protect your energy and be happy and productive as you carry on with your wonderful self.

Tracy